The Truth About Why Men Cheat
77% of cheating men have a good friend who cheated.
Hanging around friends who stray makes cheating seem normal and legitimizes
it as a possibility. The message he's subconsciously telling himself: My
friend is a good guy who happens to be cheating on his wife. I guess even the
best of us do it. You can't simply ban your husband from hanging out with
Mr. Wandering Eyes, Neuman says, but you can request that they spend their time
together in an environment that offers less temptation, like at a sporting
event or a restaurant for lunch rather than at a bar or club. Another strategy:
Build your social circle around happily married couples that share your values
— it'll create an environment that supports marriage.
40% of cheating men met the other woman at work.
"Oftentimes the woman he cheats with at the office is someone who
praises him, looks up to him, and compliments his efforts," Neuman says.
"That's another reason why it's so critical that he feel valued at
home." Luckily, there's a clear warning sign that your husband is getting a
little too cozy with a colleague: If he praises or mentions the name of a
female coworker more than he would a male counterpart, your antennae should go
up — and it's time for the two of you to set boundaries about what is and isn't
okay at work, Neuman says. Is it acceptable for him to work late if it's only
him and her? Can they travel together to conferences? Have dinners out to
discuss a project? Ask him what he'd feel comfortable with you doing with a
Only 12% of cheating men said their mistress was more physically attractive than their wife.
In other words, a man doesn't stray because he thinks he'll get better sex
with a better-looking body. "In most cases, he's cheating to fill an
emotional void," Neuman says. "He feels a connection with the other
woman, and sex comes along for the ride." If you're worried about
infidelity, focus on making your relationship more loving and connected, not on
getting your body just right or mastering new sexual positions. (But know that
sex does matter — it's one of the key ways your guy expresses his love and
feels close to you, so be sure to keep it a priority.)