The Truth About Why Men Cheat
Only 6% of cheating men had sex with a woman after meeting her that same day or night.
Actually, 73 percent of men got to know the other woman for more than a
month before they cheated. This means that you may have time to see the warning
signs before infidelity occurs — you might even see it coming before he
does. Keep an eye out for these common signals: He spends more time away from
home, stops asking for sex, picks fights more frequently, or avoids your calls.
Your gut reaction may be to confront him, but most men will deny even thinking
about cheating — especially if nothing physical has occurred yet. Instead,
Neuman suggests, take charge of what you can control — your own behavior — and
take the lead in bringing your marriage to a better place. Don't hesitate to
show your appreciation for him, prioritize time together, and initiate sex
more. Give him a reason to keep you at the front of his mind, Neuman says. And
be open about how you feel about what's going on between the two of you (again,
without mentioning any third parties). Try, "I think we've started to lose
something important in our marriage, and I don't want it to disappear." In
the meantime, commit to keeping tabs on your relationship and doing what it
takes to keep it working for you.
Originally published on September 09, 2008
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