Let It Go: Taming Soft Addictions
Do mindless activity and bad habits have a hold on you? Get the tow truck, you're in a rut.
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In relationships -- whether you're married or otherwise -- you
think you're relating to each other, but often you're just sharing soft
addictions, Wright tells WebMD. "You think you had a great evening at home,
but you weren't really connecting. That's why relationships don't go anywhere,
why they burn out."
Friendships and social occasions can be stimulating and
nurturing. But they can also be very superficial. "They can be mindless,
gossipy, not-making-real-contact, nonnourishing events -- if there's no depth
to conversations, if you're not genuine, if you're just saying expected lines,
if you're talking about other people. You're not enriching your life."
She uses herself as an example: When she let go of one bad
habit -- endlessly reading magazines and newspapers -- she substituted great
literature, which was more rewarding. After that change, she found herself
weeding out other soft addictions. She discovered that she related differently
to people in her life.
"I began speaking more deeply from my heart about my
feelings," Wright tells WebMD. "I took more walks in the park, listened
to great music, meditated, started bringing in flowers. The other things [her
soft addictions] weren't attractive to me any more."
"Soft addictions are webs, the fabric of your
lifestyle," she explains. "When you're overworking, you're addicted to
gourmet coffee, then you're all jittery, biting nails, stressful, calming down
in front of the tube, then you're surfing the Internet, staying up too late,
and you're tired the next day. But people don't always realize the