Drug Abuse and Dependence - Family and Community
Taking care of yourself while you help your loved one is important. You
probably will feel relief and happiness when the person decides to get help.
But treatment and recovery mean changes in your life too. Your emotions may
become more complicated. You may:
- Resent what the person did to you in the
- Not trust the person. You may not want to give the person the
house key, the car key, or money. You also may feel guilty about not trusting
- Find it hard to give up or share your family role. For
example, if you took over child-rearing when your partner was using drugs, you
may resent him or her becoming involved again. If you managed money, you may
resent having to make shared decisions on how to spend
- Resent that the person is spending more time at meetings or
with others in recovery than with you.
- Worry so much about relapse
that you avoid anything you feel may upset the person. You also may resent this
These feelings are normal. You've been through a bad
period of your life, and what happened is not easy to forget. Nor is it easy to
forgive the person. Keep in mind that recovery is the road to a better life,
and that you can help your loved one get there.
Find your own
support. Nar-Anon and similar programs are for people with family members or
friends with drug problems. They help you recover from the effects of being
around someone who was addicted. You also may try