Daily Words of Wisdom
So stressed you could scream? This simple strategy can take you from panic to peace in a single phrase.
When I focus on what's good, I have a good day.
—Meg Joseph, 42, New Rochelle, NY; community college marketing professor
"I say that to myself when I'm confronted with a setback. Recently, I just couldn't complete a grant application by the deadline. Instead of beating myself up about it, I focused on two good things — first, that I could finish up the proposal when I had more time and apply next year, and second, that I now had more time to focus on my family. I could feel the tension releasing almost instantly."
Don't worry about the mule going blind; just keep the wagon loaded.
—Mary Ann Lowry, 55, Thousand Oaks, CA; life coach
"I love this little mantra that my father learned from his father, who grew up on a farm in Texas. The basic message is, 'Put one foot in front of the other, and keep moving forward.' The saying always makes me smile even in the worst of times. I used it just yesterday: On the way to meet friends for breakfast, I got a ticket. I started getting all worked up about the fine, traffic school, being late. Then I reminded myself not to worry about the mule going blind: I could let this incident ruin a beautiful day, or shift my thoughts from the future to the present, from anxious to mellow. And I did."
The kids will never remember; you'll never forget.
—Cheryl Lage, 44, Richmond, VA; freelance writer and editor
"As a mom of 7-year-old twins, when I'm anxious about my children's health or my own maternal faux pas, I'm soothed by this comment my husband made early in our parenthood; I repeat it to myself almost daily. When the twins, a girl and a boy, were 2, both had to go to the emergency room a day apart. I was a wreck, but I remembered what my husband had said, and he was right: The kids are happy and healthy and don't even recall what happened."
Support is a phone call away.
—Renée Peterson Trudeau, 43, Austin; life-balance coach
"I keep a support-system note card pinned to my office bulletin board and on my refrigerator. On it is contact information for friends, babysitters, housecleaners, doctors, handymen, and counselors. All I have to do is call! Recently, I was heading out of town and having a hard time covering child care, airport transportation, volunteer commitments, and making sure my family had some ideas for meals while I was gone. I called my wonderful neighbor and asked if she could help me brainstorm. Not only did she come up with creative solutions, but she also offered to have my family over for dinner one night! Support is always there — I just have to get comfortable asking for it."