Joe Pantoliano: Mental Illness Hits Home
The award-winning actor talks to WebMD about his personal brushes with mental illness and why he's working to raise awareness.
You mentioned (in a Boston Globe article) that being involved in the film forced you to look at some of your own problems, including depression. What kind of insights did you gain??
Just being an actor is kind of a bipolar existence. You pretend to be
somebody else. You're in this imaginary situation, being an imaginary
character, in the hopes that you get the part. You have the highs and the lows
of it all. Doing a play and going in front of an audience. A lot of people say,
"How do you do that? How do you deal with all this rejection?" ... I look
at it as like an occupational hazard.
Dr. Richard Lerner, a professor at Tufts University, was one of the first
people who saw the healing elements of this movie. He thinks that the family
dynamic in this movie is the closest thing to a case study he's ever seen. Most
movies on mental illness either demonize or glorify or romanticize the illness.
... In reality, mental illness affects the entire family. It stigmatizes and
isolates the family. If I'm schizophrenic and I'm acting out, my brother
doesn't want to bring me to their house to the family gathering for Christmas,
and that means that my children and wife are excluded. It's an isolation that
[director] Joe Greco really depicts well in the movie.
This has become an advocacy for me now. It's really important to educate as
I've been educated to destigmatize and de-isolate this illness. I've started a
group called No kidding? Me Too. It's
a foundation to raise awareness and I think mental illness does not have the
luxury of being anonymous like alcoholism. One has to be really brave these
days and come out of the closet and say, "I am, or my sister is or my
brother is [mentally ill]." It's not the minority illness that you think it
is. When I talk about the movie, or when people talk to me about my book, it's
uncanny, but people say, "Wow, no kidding, me too." That's how I came
up with the name of the 501 [nonprofit].