Let It Go: Taming Soft Addictions
Do mindless activity and bad habits have a hold on you? Get the tow truck, you're in a rut.
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She uses herself as an example: When she let go of one bad
habit -- endlessly reading magazines and newspapers -- she substituted great
literature, which was more rewarding. After that change, she found herself
weeding out other soft addictions. She discovered that she related differently
to people in her life.
"I began speaking more deeply from my heart about my
feelings," Wright tells WebMD. "I took more walks in the park, listened
to great music, meditated, started bringing in flowers. The other things [her
soft addictions] weren't attractive to me any more."
"Soft addictions are webs, the fabric of your
lifestyle," she explains. "When you're overworking, you're addicted to
gourmet coffee, then you're all jittery, biting nails, stressful, calming down
in front of the tube, then you're surfing the Internet, staying up too late,
and you're tired the next day. But people don't always realize the
Designing New Fabric
Breaking a bad habit or soft addiction isn't easy, Wright
admits. Here are some suggestions:
- Start by identifying one bad habit. Maybe you head out shopping
every Saturday morning. Next time, stop at a used bookstore on your way home,
and find something worth reading. This way, "you've broken the routine, and
added something more nourishing to your life," Wright says.
- Find other things that you enjoy. Add more things to your new
routine. Soon, you'll be cutting back on shopping sprees -- but you won't feel
deprived, she says. It's what she calls, "The Math of More." "You
learn to add more nourishing things to your life, so you can subtract your soft
addictions. Eventually, you come to enjoy these new things so much, they crowd
out your soft addictions."
- Take time to write down a bigger vision for your life. This way your
new choices have a context, so they make sense in terms of your
- Don't worry if breaking bad habits seem difficult. "It's not
like it's a quick fix. It's not going to happen overnight," says Wright.
"It's really about learning to live the journey of life. It's cumulative.
You're discovering who you really are."