Why Do Some Ill People Want to Die?
"Patients can be our teachers, as opposed to assuming we
understand their experiences," he tells WebMD. "There is the need for
healthcare providers and families to hear about patient experiences so they can
better address them and do a better job in promoting quality of life and
quality of dying."
Lavery points to two patients. One, a man at death's door, was
a community activist who remained involved from his hospital bed. He strongly
believed that doctor-assisted suicide should be legal, but did not want it for
himself. Another man was far less ill, but was rejected by his family when he
told them he was gay and was rejected by his lover when he told him he had HIV.
This man wanted very much to die.
"Caregivers must be attentive not only to the physical side
of illness but also to the meaning of what dignity really is," Lavery says.
"Dignity has to do with integrity of the self. You cannot expect that
people will lie isolated in a bed and not experience profound changes in how
they perceive themselves. As a response to terminal illness we should ensure
highest quality not only of technical care for symptoms, but for community. We
should provide a role for patients and keep this role for them until they