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Study Examines 'Normal' Grieving

Emotions Typically Peak Within 6 Months
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Reviewed by Louise Chang, MD

Feb. 21, 2007 -- What is "normal" when it comes to grieving the loss of a loved one? A new study offers some surprising answers, finding acceptance and longing to be far more common than disbelief and depression.

The study included only survivors of people who died of natural causes. Most had lost middle-aged or elderly spouses to illness.

In this population, yearning and other grief symptoms typically began to subside after six months.

"We found that it was normal to yearn for a lost loved one up until this time," researcher Holly G. Prigerson, PhD, tells WebMD. "But people whose symptoms persist beyond this are at risk for having ongoing complications associated with loss."



Stages of Grief

The notion that the grief process occurs in orderly stages is widely accepted, but studied little. According to the "stage theory," the process includes stages of disbelief, followed by yearning for the lost loved one, anger, depression, and acceptance.

The new study, published in the Feb. 21 issue of The Journal of the American Medical Association, is among the first to examine whether the stage theory actually reflects normal grief patterns.

Prigerson and colleagues from Harvard Medical School and Yale University School of Medicine examined data from the Yale Bereavement Study.

The 233 study participants were followed for two years following the death of a close family member or other loved one. Eighty-four percent of the study subjects had lost a spouse, and most were in their 60s or older, Prigerson says.

Counter to the stage theory, acceptance, not disbelief, was a major early dominant grief indicator.

"Evidently, a high degree of acceptance, even in the initial month [after death], is the norm in the case of natural deaths," the researchers wrote.

And yearning was the most commonly cited negative psychological response reported throughout the study. Feelings of longing or pining for the lost loved one tended to peak four months after the loved ones' death and began to subside at six months.

"Yearning was seen much more often than depression," Prigerson says. "This has important clinical implications because most of the models we use [to assess grief] focus on depression. This suggests that we are focusing on the wrong target."

Talking About Death


Sudden death was associated with a higher degree of disbelief among survivors. While this finding is not surprising, Prigerson says it too has major implications for clinical practice.

Terminal illness was the cause of the vast majority of deaths in the study. Researchers found that having knowledge of a diagnosis for six months or longer was associated with higher levels of acceptance among survivors.

"We know that very few doctors discuss life expectancy with their terminal patients and their loved ones," Prigerson says. "That is a hard conversation to have, but it is an important one."

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