Sadness and yearning for a loved one, an object, or a way of life you
have lost are the most common and expected feelings that occur after any loss.
Probably the best thing you can do to cope with your sadness and
yearning is to talk about how you feel. Sharing your sadness with people who
care about you helps lift the heaviness that sadness often brings. Other steps
you can take to cope with your feelings of sadness and yearning include:
Looking at photos, watching videos, or exchanging
stories with other people about your loss.
Taking part in activities that
acknowledge and mark a major loss, such as funeral or memorial services after a
death. These may also include activities such as a going-away party for a
friend or a meeting to rebuild a community after it has been devastated by a
Actively participating in normal day-to-day activities.
Being active and taking part in daily activities keeps you focused in the
Although it may seem that your feelings of sadness and yearning will
last forever, remind yourself that these feelings will lessen as time goes
Reacting to others
If you find yourself being overly sensitive and
easily offended by what other people say and do, you can:
Pause for a moment before responding to what you
consider to be an insensitive comment or action. Concentrate on your breathing,
count to 10, or recite a short prayer or poem that calms
Remind yourself that you are under stress and not acting as
you normally would.
Ask people around you to allow you some time to
adjust to your new life situation.
Keep yourself from becoming
preoccupied with thoughts about an insensitive comment.
the goodness around you. Thank those who have been caring and kind to
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WebMD Medical Reference from Healthwise
November 04, 2013
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