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    Spouses Influence Chronic Pain

    When Does Support Encourage Dependence?
    WebMD Health News

    Sept. 3, 2003 -- We love to hear it: "Let me help you with that." But for people with chronic pain -- back pain or arthritis -- an overly solicitous spouse may be more harmful than helpful, a new study suggests.

    "Chronic pain affects people's lives so broadly," lead researcher Roger B. Fillingim, PhD, with the University of Florida College of Dentistry in Gainesville, tells WebMD.

    "Besides the pain symptoms, there is impact on their daily functioning -- the degree to which people can't or don't do things," he says. "There is also the emotional distress, the negative thinking, the suffering." His study appears in the current issue of The Clinical Journal of Pain.

    Indeed, chronic pain is very complex -- and there's a fine line between helping someone in pain and being overly protective.

    "Too often, a doctor makes a statement like, 'Don't lift anything over 10 pounds,' and that makes wives more protective. She starts saying, 'Oh, don't do that -- you need to rest' -- rather than encouraging them," says Fillingim. "They want to help but they don't know how."

    Gender Differences

    Studies have pointed to this delicate link between a person's disability and a spouse's response. By being overly protective -- or showing too little empathy -- a spouse can increase the level of pain and disability, some researchers have said.

    Also, women are more sensitive to pain, and are at greater risk of experiencing chronic pain, as studies have shown.

    "We're realizing, more and more, that it's a very important factor -- these differences between men and women," says Jennifer Haythornthwait, PhD, a pain researcher and director of the Behavioral Medicine Clinic at Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine. She agreed to comment on Fillingim's study.

    Fillingim "does a nice job of speaking to the complexity of this process," she tells WebMD. "It's not just about how men and women differ in their pain experiences, but how husbands and wives respond differently to the cues we all give out when we're hurting."

    Rating Empathy, Disability

    Fillingim's study involved 114 women and 213 men -- all suffering from chronic pain, mostly lower back pain. All took part in several tests looking at the impact of pain on their lives.

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