Could Your Baby's Crying Be Colic?
Coping With Colic
It is challenging to have a baby with colic. And it is normal and common to harbor feelings of anger and resentment toward your cranky little one. You are not a bad parent because your feelings turn dark and sour in the bad times. Do not feel guilty that you have these feelings. Everyone does.
However, if you think your anger could get out of control and you could actually harm, shake, or strike your baby, get help right away. Put your baby in a safe place, like the crib, and leave the room. See if your spouse or a friend or neighbor can be with him while you get some space. Or bring your baby to his pediatrician and discuss your worries about losing control.
Here are some strategies to help you more gracefully survive this tough time:
- Take a break! If you've tried everything and your little one is still crying away, it's perfectly fine to put him to bed and let him continue to cry for a while without you holding him.
- Let others care for your baby while you do something completely frivolous for yourself in the real world. Get out of the house for a while.
- Don't guilt trip yourself about this too much. You didn't do anything to cause your baby's colic.
- Remember that this period in your baby's life doesn't last forever. You will get past this difficult stage.
- Don't go it alone! Seek support and help wherever you find it.
When to Worry About Colic
Don't hesitate to bring your baby to the pediatrician to be rechecked for a possible medical cause of his crying, especially if:
- His growth and/or development are not going well
- He has symptoms of a possible medical problem (e.g., fever, lethargy, decreased feeding)
- You are so distressed that you are worried you could hurt him
- The colic persists for more than 5 months