On her brother’s first birthday, an older sister excitedly told me: “He has
a number now!”
Well, your baby has a number now. Can you even believe that a year has gone
by? When you look over there and see that sturdy, communicating, emotionally
complicated human, can you yet dimly recall the quivering helpless mass of
undifferentiated need she once was?
Baby Month by Month
Your baby's first year will be full of joys and challenges. WebMD pediatrician
Steven Parker, MD, explains what you can expect as your baby grows and
From the outset, she was person unto herself -- with specific ways of
interacting with the world. But now that character is coming into even bolder
relief and the little person is more sharply etched.
Top 10 Things About the First Year
Warning: Dr. P tends to get all sentimental and gooey at anniversaries like
this. My defense then is to intellectualize the whole thing and take stock
about what I hope you as a parent have learned over the past year. Here are my
Top 10 Things You May Have Learned About Parenting in the First
Your child is sturdy and very resilient. You don’t need to be even close to
perfect for things to go OK. After all, there never has been a perfect parent
in the history of the world and most kids grow up just fine.
The process of watching his/her development is thrilling to behold. I hope
you just can’t wait to see how it goes from here!
Being a parent is a true joy. One of the greatest things you have ever
Being a parent is sometimes a complete drag, draining you of your life’s
energy and complicating your emotions. It’s by no means been all sweetness and
light. Sometimes it’s been filled with despair and worry and anger. What I hope
you have learned is that all parents feel it to a greater or lesser
degree. Such ambivalence is OK. It simply means you are human, not a bad
You have been surprised at how much power you have over your child to
comfort, to support, to create a close emotional bond, to structure his/her
day. to provide the experiences that help him/her thrive physically,
developmentally, and emotionally.
You have been surprised at how little effect your parenting has had on some
aspects of his personality and behavior. A blank slate he was (and is ) not.
You have to go with the flow and not try to dam it up and divert it.
You found numerous sources of emotional support -- from friends,
pediatricians, family, maybe even Dr. P, and you make liberal use of such
support for what has turned out tom be an amazingly demanding job..
You learned that parenting is about choices -- breast or bottle? Cloth or
disposable diaper? Ferberize or cry it out?
You learned how to seek good advice, hopefully based on the best evidence
of the day. But in the end, you have learned to trust yourself to come up with
what is best for your little one.
You have come to appreciate and cherish not only your own kids, but those
all over the world who, through no fault of their own, have disadvantaged and
impossible circumstances and need our global village to help them out.