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    Parenthood: Life After Baby

    "How exactly does life change after a baby?"
    By Sherry Rauh
    WebMD Feature
    Reviewed by Louise Chang, MD

    If you're about to begin maternity leave and looking forward to all the free time you'll have, WebMD is proud to offer you a reality check. Don't count on finishing home improvement projects, catching up on leisure reading, or watching all those programs stored on your TiVo. Here's how new parents really spend their time.

    "Feed, change, soothe, feed, change, soothe -- all day long and all through the night." That's how first-time mother Lydia Lizano sums up life with her 4-week-old daughter, Katelyn. "The toughest part was when she cried and cried and cried and I didn't know how to soothe her. It took time to get to know which cry meant what. Nobody ever tells you how hard it is the first few weeks."

    A Time of Challenge

    Psychologist Arthur Kovacs, PhD, says expectant parents would be better served by a bigger dose of the truth. "There are a lot of myths about becoming a parent in our society," he tells WebMD. "The first step to good adjustment is to understand the reality. The biggest myth is that this should be a time of idyllic happiness. It's really a time of terrific challenge."

    "I feel like I no longer live for myself," says Lori Freed, a pharmaceutical sales representative with a 2-month-old son, Luke. Freed is on maternity leave and says staying home with a baby is "a lot more work than I realized. You can't imagine how much attention they need. Even though you know you will love them, you can't imagine how hands-on it is."

    "New moms are always amazed at how much time one little baby takes up," says midwife Elizabeth Stein, CNM, owner of Ask Your Midwife, PC, in New York. "The mother is at the mercy of the baby's schedule."

    Typical Day

    What might that schedule look like? Every baby is different, so there's no way to predict a typical day with your newborn, but Freed says a typical day with Luke goes something like this:

    7 a.m. Feeding
    8 a.m. Play for an hour
    9 a.m. Feeding
    10 a.m. Nap
    Noon Feeding
    2 p.m. Feeding
    3 p.m. Nap
    4 p.m. Feeding
    6 p.m. Feeding
    8 p.m. Feeding followed by bath
    9 p.m. Baby goes to bed
    10 p.m. Mom goes to bed
    1 a.m. Feeding
    4 a.m. Feeding

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