Tips for Going Back to Work After Baby
By Nicole Yorio
How can I best prepare myself for returning to work?
Remember that everyone in your life needs to be part of the picture. So
before you go back to work, build your support team — that includes your
partner, the caretaker, fellow working moms you can go to for advice, and a
parent or friend who's willing to help out. Discuss your expectations for your
working-mom lifestyle with your partner, your boss, and your sitter — and also
ask what they expect from you. Maybe you want to arrive at the office at 9:30
a.m. instead of 9 a.m., or you need your husband to alternate midnight
feedings. These discussions will make for a smoother transition. But also know
that the first few weeks will be messy, and you're allowed to be human, so take
one thing at a time: Don't make your first day at work your first day back in
the gym as well. Finally, this is one time that a little splurge has a big
advantage; buying one new outfit that you feel good in will help boost your
self-esteem and give you more confidence at the office.
What emotions can I expect?
You'll experience many — anxiety, stress — but the number one feeling is
guilt. You lay it on yourself, either because you feel bad about leaving or
because you're actually relieved to get out the door, and other people have a
way of laying it on you too. When guilt strikes, remind yourself why you're
going back to work and why that's a good thing, and stay committed to your
decision. Guilt fades, and you'll feel better in time. Also, we compare
ourselves with other working moms — the woman who seems to have it together or
the mom whose husband seems more helpful — but comparisons will only make you
feel worse. Instead, ask those moms to share their tips. Know, too, that all
moms crave validation that they're doing the right thing, but that feeling
won't come from balancing your life perfectly (if only that were possible!). It
will come from knowing that you're doing what's best for you and baby.