Watch Baby Grow -- But Not Too Closely
Watching baby grow
First-time mom Debra Sherman, of Chicago, checks a popular baby
book each month to make sure 10-month-old Alex's development is on track. So
when he got stuck crawling in reverse during the past two months, she knew he
was a little late. But she stayed calm.
"It didn't worry me that much," admits Sherman, who
says reassurance from other experienced moms, including her own mother and
mother-in-law, helped. This past weekend, he took those first creeps forward --
a little late, but no worse for wear.
Parents should give themselves -- and their baby -- some
latitude as they track physical and emotional growth in these exciting first
months, experts say. It's good to know the milestones, especially if you're a
first-time parent, but don't sweat the details.
Tricks of the Infant Trade
"The truth about the average child is that nobody's
average," says Dr. Daniel Kessler, director of developmental and behavioral
pediatrics at The Children's Center of St. Joseph's Hospital in Phoenix, Ariz.
"So parents need to watch their child and their own gut instincts,
The most reliable developmental guidelines won't just include
the "tricks" your little one will be mastering, like rolling over,
crawling or standing. They should also prepare you for your child's emotional
and social growth, language development and thinking skills.
But you can't expect progress day-to-day or even week-to-week
in all areas. Kids grow in spurts, so as your baby boy becomes fixated on
learning to pull himself up to a standing position, for instance, he may not be
paying much attention to honing his verbal skills.
"Children seem to be more interested in fulfilling one
accomplishment and taking it to its limit before spending a lot of mental
energy on some other aspect of development," says Kessler. But, he adds,
"That's certainly not a reason to stop feeding their brains with
One in a Million
Pediatric guru Dr. William Sears agrees. "Progression, not
timing, is what's important," says Sears, associate clinical professor of
pediatrics at University of California School of Medicine at Irvine and
co-author of "The Baby Book: Everything You Need to Know About Your Baby --
From Birth to Age Two," (Little, Brown and Co., $22). "Babies vary
greatly in personalities and developmental milestones."
And you can pretty much ignore the daunting array of products
designed to jumpstart your tiny tot's development engine, experts advise. A few
simple items may help baby advance; see a list recommended by the American
Academy of Pediatrics: Baby, Let's Play.
But the best thing you can do in these early months is simply
get to know your baby and her unique temperament, and give her all the love,
closeness and attention you can.
Research shows kids will be more self-assured and smarter for
it later on.