This Is What Adoption Feels Like
"Two months later, we were in China. Our guide at the civil affairs
office told us, 'Your baby is sick, but she's okay.' We didn't know what that
meant, but we were ready to deal with anything.
"Gwen was 7 months old and weighed 8.2 pounds. She was sicker than we
thought, and her highest fever was 105.8. She was having seizures and was
hospitalized multiple times while we were there. The minute we got back home,
we took her to the hospital, where she was diagnosed with a respiratory
infection that isn't serious in most children but can be life-threatening in
children who are already small and weak, like Gwen.
"Her first year home was hard. She was also developmentally delayed, not
sitting up or rolling over. So we put her in physical therapy and occupational
therapy; we had her work with sleep specialists and nutritional specialists.
Now I look back and realize I got to experience everything with Gwen. I saw her
sit up, roll over, take her first steps. If it hadn't been for those struggles,
we wouldn't have had those moments.
"Today Gwen runs everywhere, loves to laugh, loves to play in the water,
and she's entranced by books. She's on track with all the other kids. Some
people say love can't conquer all, and maybe not, but love and a whole lot of
work can get you very far, and all I have to do to know that is look at
Four years ago, Breanna Conner gave birth to a daughter and placed her in
an open adoption with John Sgro, 30, a minister in the Chicago area, and his
wife, Amanda, 31. Breanna, now 22, recently graduated college and works for a
family-services program in Indiana.
"When I found out I was pregnant at 17, my family and my ex-boyfriend's
family both suggested adoption, since they thought life would be difficult for
me as a single mom still in school. At first I was against it. I couldn't
imagine placing my daughter with people I didn't know and never seeing her
again. But when I went to the doctor, I also met with a social worker who
brought up the idea of open adoption. I researched it more and thought it could
be a good option. Open adoption would be a way I could give my baby the