This Is What Adoption Feels Like
"The next day, the social worker e-mailed me beautiful pictures. And on
Wednesday, I met the baby and the interim-care mother at the agency office. The
little girl had been in temporary care for five weeks while the birth parents'
rights were terminated so that she would be legally free for adoption. When I
first saw her, she was in this little yellow sleeper with Tweety Bird on it,
and I just sat with her for an hour and held her and looked at her and fed her
and changed her. Afterward, the social worker asked me if I wanted to accept
the placement, and I said, 'Of course!' I decided to name her Lauren.
"It's hard to juggle everything — work, maintaining a household, caring
for Lauren, and finding time for myself. My days start early in the morning and
end late at night. But — and this might sound like a cliché — it's so hard to
imagine my life without Lauren. If she wakes up in the morning before I do, she
comes into my room with a big smile and a 'Good morning, Mommy!' Those moments,
and the hugs and kisses, are priceless. She's so funny, so happy, naturally
inquisitive, and so much fun.
"I'm now on the waiting list for foster adoption. I had a great
experience with a private agency, but I couldn't save the fees needed for a
second adoption, and I have friends who have had great experiences with
adopting from foster care. I've been waiting for a month, and I'm hoping to
bring home another girl, younger than Lauren. It'll be good for her to have a
sibling, and I love being a mother."
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Originally published on October 18, 2007
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