It is normal to question your feelings for your baby.
A bond doesn't necessarily happen the moment you set eyes on your child. But
you will develop stronger feelings and love for your baby every day. For some
parents, it takes time to develop this bond, especially when the baby's
physical demands take a great deal of time and energy. Talk to your doctor if
you do not feel that you are bonding with your baby in the first week or
Also keep in mind:
Your baby will soon be able to engage with you.
But this first month, your baby may seem to be in a semi-conscious state.
Sleeping and eating are a newborn's main activities. He or she will gradually
emerge from this groggy state, and you can rest assured that your loving care
will be rewarded with interaction very soon.
Gradually within the
first month, your newborn will begin to look more "baby-like." Although many
parents don't like to admit it, even to themselves, it is common to feel
disappointed that their baby isn't as cute as they had hoped. If you feel this
way, don't despair. Labor and delivery takes its toll on your baby's
appearance. He or she may have an odd-shaped head, swollen or squinty eyes,
blotchy skin, and a flattened nose in the first few weeks. Soon, these
irregularities will fade away and your baby will start to develop more
Your baby may have a
birthmark that is noticed at birth or within this
first month. Most birthmarks need no treatment. They often fade as a child
grows older. But sometimes a birthmark needs treatment or close monitoring.
Talk to your doctor if you have concerns. For more information, see the topic
Although you will go through some major adjustments to this
new little person in your life, your baby's first month is also a period of
amazing growth and change. Treasure these first weeks as you gradually
introduce your baby to the world.