Make It Easy on Bedwetters -- and Yourself continued...
Some parents wash the sheets themselves; others ask the child, if he's old enough, to do it. It's OK to have the child take responsibility, Parker says. "But often it's [considered] a punishment: 'You wet, you clean.'" That's not advisable, of course.
Parents can ease up on themselves, too, doctors say. It's nothing they did wrong, although doctors say they sometimes have to convince parents of that.
"I began to think he's failing because I'm failing him," says Eleanor, 40, a California mother of two whose younger son Michael, now 4 1/2, used to wet the bed. With her husband, Ray, 39, she tried a variety of positive approaches, including a reward system for dry nights. After each dry night, Michael could pick a small reward, such as a coloring book. He was waking up dry by age 4.
Eleanor isn't sure if it was the rewards or that he just grew out of it. She's just happy he's now dry. "It’s the biggest milestone we have hit so far," she says.