15 Secrets of Happy Families
Experts reveal the key ingredients to a happy family life.
Happy Family Secret No. 12: Encourage Sibling Harmony
Sibling rivalry can be divisive. "I try to speak to my kids about how
fortunate they are to have siblings," Boteach says.
Happy Family Secret No. 13: Have Private Jokes
Happy families have inside jokes, Syracuse's Fiese says, "Jokes and
nicknames symbolize that this is a group that you belong to and serves as a
shorthand for larger experiences," she says.
Happy Family Secret No. 14: Be Flexible
"This is easier said than done," says Fiese. "But by their very nature,
families change so you have to be open to change in membership and age,"
Fiese says. "Somebody gets married, somebody dies, somebody remarries and
teenagers are no longer children and young adults are no longer teenagers, but
they are all still part of the family."
Happy Family Secret No. 15: Communicate
Rose J. Perkins, EdD, associate professor of psychology at Stonehill College
in Easton, Mass., says that a happy family communicate with one another.
"Frequently families are set up where everyone tells the mom and then the
mom sends the message, but in a happy family, there are more flexible, open
lines of communication."
In happy families, "all the members of family unit are able to
communicate openly," she says.