Dial a Coach for Parenting Advice
Having trouble honing your parenting skills? Some parents in the same boat consult a parenting coach.
Your child's steadfast rejection of any food except for pizza,
refusal to clean his room or do homework, and fondness to throw temper tantrums
in public make you want to pull your hair out or just throw your hands up in
Sound familiar? Instead of giving up, many parents just aren't
taking it anymore. They're logging onto their computers or picking up the phone
to vent to their coaches -- their parent coaches.
We can hire coaches to help us with virtually anything
including organizing our closets and teaching us how to flirt, so it makes
sense that parent coaching is booming. These coaches counsel parents on
everything from how to deal with a picky eater to how to encourage children to
be more responsible. Fees typically range from $35 to $125 an hour. Many parent
coaches even specialize according to type of parent such as working moms,
single parents, and parents of children with learning disabilities.
Still, not everyone is convinced that parent coaching is such a
great idea. Some experts suggest great care should be taken when seeking advice
about a child's temperament or development.
Coaching Parents to Be Their Own Coach
Parent coaches like Seattle's Deborah Phillips, MS, generally
do their business by email, instant message, phone, and occasionally in
A mother of two, Phillips has been a parent coach for more than
four years. While she does most of her coaching over the phone, she also runs
workshops around Seattle.
"Typically, parents come to me when there is a specific
situation causing a problem -- a trouble-shooting request. [And] once I help
them figure out how to solve that problem, we start looking at their parenting
overall," she tells WebMD.
"Say it's a 3-year-old who is throwing tantrums and the
parent has tried everything they can think of to no avail or a 10-year-old who
is starting to be more independent and testing boundaries," she says.
Basically, "anytime a parent feels stuck they come to me," she
For starters, she asks parents to determine what is most
important in their parenting. "I want to know their bottom line/core value
and teach them how to make sure that everything they do and say is consistent
with that value."