Internet Safety for Kids
MySpace, Facebook, and Twitter can help teens connect with friends — but can leave them vulnerable to bullying and worse, too. Here's how to keep your kid safe online.
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The two giants of social networking, MySpace and Facebook, have improved
their privacy practices in recent years, giving users much better tools for
controlling who sees what. Those age 18 and under who set up profiles, for
instance, are now given fairly strict privacy settings as a default, assuming
they're honest about their ages. But many teens (not to mention their parents)
don't know how to fine-tune their settings to keep themselves as safe as
Arnold Bell, assistant chief of the FBI's Cyber Division Strategic Outreach
and Initiatives Section, recommends sitting with your child when he sets up a
Facebook or MySpace page and looking at the privacy settings, so you can make
sure he chooses wisely. Experts advise using the strictest privacy settings
(which are now generally automatic for kids 18 and under) from the start.
To do this on Facebook, go to the "Privacy Settings" link under "Settings"
at the top right-hand corner of any page. Make sure all the menus under
"Profile" and "Search" are set to "Only Friends" — meaning that only friends
your child has approved can access his profile, photos, and other information —
or possibly "Friends of Friends" if his goal is to connect with a broader
group. On MySpace, find the privacy settings by clicking on the "My Account"
link in the upper right-hand corner of any page. Then click "Privacy," and look
for a heading that says "Profile Viewable By." Click on "My Friends Only." You
can also customize other options — such as not allowing photos of your child to
be shared or e-mailed by others — on the same page.
If your child already has an online profile, check to see if it's public by
Googling his name or searching for him on Facebook or MySpace (you don't need
to be a member to do so). Better yet, says Vila, do it together: "Say, 'I
understand that these days anything that's posted online is very tough to keep
private. Why don't we Google you to check if there's anything that you don't
want out there?'" Also Google a friend or two of his, to compare and contrast.
"You can say, 'This person has chosen to have this stuff about her online —
what do you think about it?'" says Vila. "It's an opportunity for you to
discuss what are the right values for your family."
Word to the wise: Also step in if your child is using Twitter, the
micro-blogging service where users post short updates, known as tweets. Many
kids don't realize these are completely public, akin to posting on a virtual
global bulletin board. Help your child click on the "Protect My Updates"
setting to control which members can follow what she posts. And if a stranger
starts following her updates, she can restrict that person's access by using
the "Block" tool.