Kids Playing: Slingshots vs. Video Games
Is The Dangerous Book for Boys really that dangerous, or is it just what we need?
Keeping an Eye on the Kids continued...
And the new book doesn’t have to be for boys only, she says.
"If parents of females want to read this book and allow their female
children to engage in these activities, go ahead if they show interest,"
she says, "Young boys, if given the opportunity, will be drawn to playing
house and nurturing dolls, and this can teach them to be empathetic, caring,
and nurturing," she says. Too often, "our society will take a doll out
of a boy's hand and say 'play with this truck,'” she says. "The book may be
gender-specific, but so what?"
"I think it’s tougher being a kid today and tougher parenting a kid
today," says Vic Strasburger, MD, a professor of pediatrics at the
University of New Mexico School of Medicine in Albuquerque and the program
chairman for the American Academy of Pediatrics' council on communications and
In a way it's a double-edged sword, he says.
"The media are a lot more dangerous and a lot more helpful," he
says. "The Internet has made a significant contribution to doing homework,
but there are first-person shooter video games that are incredibly
dangerous," he says. "These games are desensitizing, and they teach
kids how to kill," he says, "Slingshots are bad enough -- you could
shoot someone's eye out with a slingshot -- but guns teach kids to
"It’s the best of times and the worst of times," Strasburger tells
Questions of Safety
When asked if she believes this new book is dangerous, Rebecca Kiki
Weingarten, MScEd, MFA, a psychotherapist and the co-founder/coach of Daily
Life Consulting in New York City, says that "it all depends on what
you mean by dangerous. In a way, children live in a more dangerous world all
around today then they did in the past."
We rarely see kids playing outside on the block because of crime, she points
This lack of perceived safety has sired the whole concept of the “helicopter
parent," she explains. "Parents literally don’t let their kids
breathe and everything is so, so controlled that kids end up in the house using
technological toys," she says.
"They do this to the exclusion of other activities, and kids’ attention
spans become shorter, and some of the content of these video games is really
way inappropriate and not psychologically healthy," she says.
In this sense, "this book is a backlash," she says.
This book also sires father-son bonding, she tells WebMD.
"It's a way to connect boys with fathers," Weingarten says.
"Boys can now say, 'hey can you help me make this paper airplane,' and
fathers and sons are doing projects together, and that is fantastic," she