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Making Friends: What to Do When Your Child Can't

Parents can foster friends and friendship in their children.
WebMD Feature
Reviewed by Cynthia Dennison Haines, MD

With songs, sitcoms, dramas, and movies galore celebrating friendship, it's clear society places a high premium on friends. As a result, parents often grow concerned when their child just doesn't seem to fit in -- or worse -- fits in with the wrong crowd.

But parents shouldn't fret just because their child is not the most popular kid in the class or the life of the party, experts say.

"My rule of thumb when working with kids is that I don't get too concerned about kids who have a friend or a couple of friends, but there are some kids who, for whatever reason, have no friends, and that can be problematic," explains Jonathan Poghyly, PhD, a child psychologist at Children's Memorial Hospital, in Chicago. "If a child has at least one friend, there is a frame of reference and a forum in which to practice friendship."

Parents may start to notice that their child is starting to develop a pattern in regard to friends and friendship starting at the age of 3 or 4, says Charles Sophy, a Beverly Hills, Calif.-based psychiatrist. "If you are hearing from teachers, caregivers, or coaches that your child is a loner on the playground, doesn't share well, gets rejected when he or she tries to join a group and/or is aggressive, it may be something to look into," he says.

According to Sophy, the first step is to look at your child's situation from several angles. "Is he sleeping? Is he eating well enough? Is he getting his work done at school? Is he being stimulated in an age-appropriate manner? Does he exercise and get out socially?"

The answers to these questions can be telling and may help point parents in the right direction, he explains. For example, lack of sleep may result in irritability and lack of energy for socialization.

"You also have to look at yourself as a parent," he says. "Do you model good behavior? Do you have friends? Do you enjoy friends and go out? Do you have group play dates where moms and dads hang out while the kids play?" These types of behavior will encourage and motivate your children to value friends and friendships.

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