Are You As Good As Your Mom?
by Hagar Scher
Are you a good mother? As good as your mom? Or are you even
We asked American women that question-now read their surprising answers.
Plus, mother-daughter look-alikes and celeb memories of Mom. What's your image
of the 21st-century mom? Many people might profile her this way: hardworking
but harried; loving and indulgent; seeking support from friends rather than
family; and feeling guilty, guilty, guilty about not doing a better job at
home. That may be the conventional wisdom-but a very different picture emerged
from a national survey just conducted by Good Housekeeping in partnership with
ABC News Good Morning America
We interviewed 585 mothers with at least one child under age 18 at home, and
the women's message was loud and clear: Parenting is hard work, but most think
they're doing a good job. Many even feel they're doing better with their kids
than their own moms did with them. And working-mother guilt? Save it for your
seventies scrapbook-mothers with jobs, full-time or part-time, are no more
likely than their at-home counterparts to feel guilty about not always being
the perfect parent. Check out our findings-starting with perhaps the biggest
surprise of all.
The new mother-daughter team
Of the women we polled, more than half describe their current relationship
with their mother as excellent-while only a third remember being on such good
terms when they were growing up. In fact, for many women, Mom has become more
than just family: Half the women say they now consider her a friend.
Maybe even a best friend. Joanne Linehan, 34, a high school teacher in
Warrensburg, New York, with a two-year-old and a baby on the way, was a typical
teenager who wouldn't be caught dead at the mall with Mom. But at 26, she
accepted an invitation to be her mother's golf league partner. "We'd hang
out afterward at the bar and talk," she recalls. "That was the first
time I saw my mom as more than the lady who lived at our house and took care of
us kids. I have friends from school and college, but they're just as busy as I
am with family and work. So my mom is now the person I share the most