5 Signs of Pushover Parents
5. Rewarding Kids With Technology
Tweens are getting smartphones at younger and younger ages, often because they wear down their parents by begging for the devices. But giving in isn't good for your child, even if you justify that she can call you if she unexpectedly needs a ride home.
"Permissive parents are having a heck of a time with smartphones and social media," Kastner says. "They give sixth-graders smartphones and Facebook accounts, [don't set screen-time limits] and then their grades go down. There's no reason for parents of middle-schoolers to give up as much control as they do."
If you've already given your tween or teen a gadget, use it to promote better behavior.
"The best thing about smartphones is you can take them away," Kastner says. "Tell your kids, 'You get your phone as a paycheck. You have to be a good citizen, go to bed, do your homework.' You don't even have to fight about having them give it to you; call your carrier and have them turn it off."