Expressing your concerns about someone else's child is not easy and should not be taken lightly. "This may actually be harder than telling someone something about their husband or wife," Hoffman says. "It’s a very tough situation."
His advice is to wait for an opening. "If the other person says, ‘I don’t know what to do with Johnny,’ it may be a good time to delicately express your concerns," Hoffman says.
But be warned. Saying something, even when prompted, may affect your friendship. And be careful that you're stating the facts and sharing your feelings rather than diagnosing or labeling someone else's child.