7 Mistakes Parents Make With Grade-Schoolers
You may not be able to avoid all parenting pitfalls, but looking before you leap may help you miss the big ones.
6. Missing the Red Flags of Bullying
Bullying can, and does, occur in grade school.
"We see it in the context of children coming in with vague aches and pains because of stress," Volin says. "Most of the time the [doctor's] exam is going to be normal, and we can assure the parent that their child is OK and talk about what other things may be going on at school or at home."
Another sign that bullying may be an issue is a child who loves school suddenly refusing to go to school.
If you suspect bullying, take it seriously and talk to school officials. Talking to your child's teacher can also help you find out if anything else is going on. Volin says, "It's a fine line because you don't want your kid to be bullied even more, but an adult needs to be aware of what is going on."
Bullying can also happen on the Internet, with social media, or even via texts.
"Parents should monitor the social networking with preteens," Volin says. "Make sure the computer is in a family room where the parent can monitor what is going on with Facebook, Twitter, or whatever chat room their child is in."
Locks can also be placed within applications, and it is important to have open communication with your child about social media.
7. Overscheduling Your Kids
It may be tempting to sign your child up for this or that, but overscheduling kids can affect their academic performance.
For example, "Fifth- and sixth-graders are entering middle school and the academic rigor is really increased," Volin says. "They go from a single homeroom teacher to going from class to class with multiple teachers and a lot of homework and expectations," she says.
Strike a balance so that they are meeting academic expectations and are involved in select extracurricular activities. Different children have different needs, and there are really no hard and fast rules as to how many after-school activities are too many. Take your cues from your child.