Beyond Childhood Fears
No matter what's causing a childhood fear, experts agree it should never be
ignored -- or childhood fears could turn into adult ones. But Garber says it's
not always easy to find out what's bothering our children. "They don't
often just tell us. They speak more through their behaviors."
Garber says those behavioral signs might include a change in sleeping
pattern or an otherwise unexplainable need to be close to a parent. "What
you need to do is first help them identify what they're afraid of and then
teach them ways of coping with that fear," he says. "It will make them
less likely to have anxiety disorders as an adult."
Cantor says that when a disturbing news story is at the root of a fear, it
might help with older children to stress "reassuring information," such
as telling a child that the presence of smoke alarms makes a fatal fire
unlikely. But she adds there is one thing you should never say as a fear
alleviator: "Don't say, it's very rare. It's not going to happen. Because
for catastrophic things, one in a billion is too much."
- Childhood fears are a common experience, but a new study of children shows
that nearly 50% exhibit symptoms of anxiety and 23% meet the full diagnostic
criteria for anxiety disorder.
- Some experts say that images of violence in the mass media, especially the
news, contribute to fears among children.
- Parents should try to find out whether their children have any fears and
teach them to cope with them so that they don't develop anxiety disorder as