Helping Your Child Build Inner Strength - How Can You Help Children Build Inner Strength?
The single most important thing you can do to help your children is to show that you love them no matter what.
Knowing that you are close by and available gives your children a sense of security. Although your children's world is expanding, you remain their primary influence.
Always remember that you are a role model. Your children learn by watching you. So be sure that your actions and behaviors teach them how to:
Show love and affection.
Work with other people rather than against them.
Look forward to tomorrow.
Safety and security
To build inner strength, children need to feel loved and safe. They need a family that is close, that spends regular time together, and that offers a safe haven as they grow.
Make sure that your child feels safeMake sure that your child feels safe. Your child is more
likely to feel safe and secure if you are dependable, consistent, respectful,
and responsive. These qualities are especially important for parents of
preschool children, because these children are gaining a basic sense of trust
in themselves and in the important people in their lives.
Encourage safe explorationEncourage safe exploration. Children need to explore. Children who explore learn new skills and how to solve problems. They learn that actions have consequences, and that causes have effects. Offer a variety of things to play with,
read, create, and build. It might be hard, but try not to limit your child because of safety fears.
Instead, do what you can to keep the child safe as he or she explores the world.
Provide peer contactProvide peer contact. Playing with other children
even 1 day a week gives children opportunities to learn and practice important social, emotional, and language skills. Children learn to share,
cooperate, and negotiate as they interact with their peers.
Around age 9, many children successfully form close friendships. Forming these relationships helps children learn sensitivity to the feelings of others.
Confidence and independence
Encourage independenceEncourage independence. Children learn a sense of independence by practicing
skills and doing things for themselves, such as getting dressed or brushing
their teeth. Children who are not allowed to perform tasks on their own get the
message that they are not capable.
Deal with fearsDeal with fears. Understand that your
child may become extremely interested in scary subjects or images as a way to
overcome them. Help your child as much as you can by answering questions and
providing reassurance as needed.
Build thinking skills. One way to help your child build thinking and reasoning skills is to get involved in your child's
school. Volunteer if possible, work on having good relationships with teachers and
other staff members, and show your interest in what your child is learning.