Toilet Training - What Is Normal
Stress in the home can interfere with a child's toilet training. For
example, toilet-training setbacks can be related to the arrival of a new baby,
a move, a change in preschool or child care, family conflict, or illness or
death of a close family member.
A child's toilet habits may also
be affected if he or she gets an illness, especially one that has a long recovery time.
Sometimes your child will not
cooperate for no good reason that you can determine.
pressure from friends or family to toilet train your child too early. Parents
often feel that their child should be trained by a specific age or to meet a
deadline, such as for a requirement to enroll in a particular day care. You and
your child are less likely to become frustrated and have a good experience with
toilet training if it is not forced. Staying positive and relaxed is an
important part of training your child.
typically do not help. Children need frequent praise throughout the entire
process of toilet training.
You will know your child is
toilet-trained when he or she regularly anticipates the need to go to the
bathroom and with little help is able to climb onto and use the
type of toilet (potty) you provide. This process takes time, from weeks to
months. Each child is different. But most children are successfully trained
around age 3 or shortly thereafter (girls are typically trained a few months
earlier than boys). Your child may still need help now and then, such as with
wiping, until age 4 or 5. He or she may also need help and reassurance when
using a toilet in an unfamiliar bathroom, such as in a public restroom, until
about age 5 or 6.
Most toilet-trained children sometimes wet or
soil their pants during the day, usually because they get distracted. For
example, your child may ignore the need to go to the bathroom because he or she
does not want to interrupt playtime. These accidents may occur until your child
is 5 years old. Stress can also cause a child to revert to wetting his or her
Most children sometimes wet the bed at night until about 12
months after they use the toilet during the day. Many 3-year-olds wet the bed
at night at least once a month. Nighttime bed-wetting may even occur
sporadically into school age.