11 "Don't-Tell-the-Husband" Secrets All Wives Keep
6. We're scared that we'll turn into our mothers.
We love our mothers, really. We admire them, we're grateful to them, we
think they're the most amazing women on the planet. We just don't want to be
them. That's why one of the worst insults you can hurl at a woman is,
"You're acting just like your mother."
But here's one that's even worse: "You're acting just like my mother."
It sends a horrible oedipal shiver down our spines-did he marry me because I'm
like his mom? Will he start expecting me to cut the crusts off his PB&J? So
please, if you value your sex life, never ever compare your wife to your
mother. Out loud, anyway.
7. We want you to be jealous-but just a little bit.
We want you to notice-and care!-when the waiter flirts with us, or when
other guys check us out on the street. It makes us feel that we matter to you.
But please don't get all Neanderthal and possessive on us. "I'm very loyal,
and if my guy can't understand that I would never do anything with anyone else,
then that just makes me mad," says Paulina, 22, from Brooklyn. So, to
recap: Raising your eyebrows when we introduce you to our cute coworker-good.
Punching him out-very, very bad.
8. Yes, we fantasize about hot celebrity guys, but that doesn't mean we want you to be them.
Christian Bale is sexy and all, but can you imagine having to clean that
9. We tell our girlfriends more than we admit to you (but less than you fear).
Yes, we tell them about the latest marital spat, complain about our
mothers-in-law, and sigh over the hobby that sucks up all your free time. But
we don't tell them how big your you-know-what is or that you cried in our arms
when your dad died. Some things are just too important and intimate to share.
"I definitely don't tell my girlfriends details like what my husband said
when he proposed, the feeling I have every time I see him look at our daughter,
and the little wonderful things he does for me every day," says Lorraine.
"Those are just for me."