21 Ways to Say "I Love You" Without Saying a Word
By Sara Anderson
Redbook readers - and their guys! - share how they show their
You already know it's important for you and your guy to tell each other
"I love you" — as often as possible. But you shouldn't depend on those
three little words to let your one-and-only know what's in your heart. In fact,
nonverbal displays of affection are often a better way to get through to
the man in your life. "Guys tend to be action-oriented, so they feel less
comfortable using words to express emotions," says REDBOOK Love Network
expert and psychiatrist Scott Haltzman, M.D., author of The Secrets of
Happily Married Men. "They've seen enough Tom Hanks movies to know
they're supposed to always say 'I love you,' but they're not sure that words
alone convey how they feel."
Ready to let what you do speak louder than what you say? We
asked REDBOOK readers and the men in their lives to share some sweet ideas.
Plus, we added in some expert tips on how to give your love a boost without
uttering a word.
"Sometimes I 'write' a love message on my husband's breakfast toast.
Using cookie cutters, especially my Valentine's Day set of hearts, I press one
lightly into a slice of bread, just hard enough to imprint it, then I toast it.
It never fails to bring a smile to his face." —Anita Crehan, Mason, NH
"Every now and then I leave a card saying how much I love and appreciate
him under his pillow for him to find before he goes to sleep." —Cim
Collins, Springfield, IL
"My wife, Leigh Anne, sometimes has to travel for work, and when she
gets home, I give her a small gift for every day she has been gone. I'll set
them on the kitchen table and wait for her to notice them — things like her
favorite perfume, fresh flowers, or a cool piece of hand-made jewelry. I love
to spoil her!" —John Montgomery, Birmingham, AL
"I place special little love notes, cartoons, jokes, or small articles —
sometimes racy ones — in her underwear drawer. She never knows what to expect
next. She gets a big kick out of them and knows it is my way of saying I love
her." —Joe Cirillo Jr., Englewood, FL
"When I take a shower at night, I write messages on the fogged-up
mirrors so they appear when he takes a shower in the morning before he goes to
work." —Jackie Peirce, Oley, PA