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31 Ways to Say "Yes" to Sex

WebMD Feature from "Redbook" Magazine

By Lisa Sussman.

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It's a fact: Putting the moves on your man is one of the best things you can do for your sex life. Why? Well, for starters, making the first move makes you feel powerful, in tune with your own erotic energy, and in charge of your desires. That's pretty sexy stuff. And it makes him feel great, too: Believe it or not, no matter how long you've been together, your guy's ego is on the line every time he asks you to make love. He needs to know you want him just as much as he wants you. By initiating sex, you're showing your enthusiasm for him and for your partnership. Everybody wins!

It may not be your style to blatantly say, "Let's make love tonight." Perhaps you're more of a nudge-and-a-wink kind of girl. Which is fine, as long as he understands your subtle moves. You may think that your over the-shoulder smile as you head toward the bedroom speaks volumes, while he may think it means you're thrilled to be getting to bed so early. Try these silent but unmistakable love zingers to signal that you want him...tonight...right now. He'll get the message.

No Time for Sex?

Try one of these 15 superhot moves, made to fit any schedule!

When you have 60 seconds:
- Plan a sex day. Slip him a note in the morning that says, "I'll meet you in our bedroom in 12 hours. Be there and be naked."
- Sneak a sexy picture in with his mail, in an envelope marked "For Your Eyes Only."
- Try the direct route: Take his hand, place it on your thigh - and then slide it higher, and higher...

When you have 5 minutes:
- Kiss him awake. Then keep on kissing.
- Using an eyeliner pencil, scribble "Kiss me" or "Stroke me" on your stomach, breast, or any other body part, adding arrows to tell him where to go (and what to do) next. He'll love discovering the secret message when you get undressed - and you'll love getting exactly what you want, where you want it.
- Tell him you need to borrow his car keys, then treat yourself to a grope in his front pocket as you fish around for them.
- When he's getting dressed, mention that his belt is off-center, then do a sensual hands-on readjustment, with a promise for more personal "styling" later tonight.

When you have 15 minutes:
- Give him a reverse striptease one morning before work: Put on a sizzling CD and, making sure he has a clear view, get dressed slooowly, swaying your hips to the beat. - - - - Bend over while you pull up your skirt, and arch your back while you hook your bra. He'll be thinking about peeling those clothes back off of you all day long.
- Greet him with a big fluffy towel when he's stepping out of the shower, and give him a long, loving rubdown from head to toe.
- When getting undressed in the evening, take off everything - yes, everything - but your high heels (and if you don't usually wear heels, put some on!). Casually walk around the bedroom as if you just haven't bothered to kick them off yet.
- Draw him a map: Leave a line of Hershey's Kisses in the hall leading into the bedroom, ending in an arrow pointing toward the bed.
- Trim your bikini line just a little bit more than usual. He'll notice.

When you have an entire hour:
- Set the alarm an hour earlier than usual, but don't tell him. When he groans about it going off at the wrong time, just smile and whisper back, "No, it didn't."
- Leaf through a sex book (you can't go wrong with a classic like The Joy of Sex) and mark the things you're dying to try. Then leave the book on his nightstand (wrap it in brown paper if you're worried about the kids discovering it).
- Send him off with a grocery list: chocolate sauce, honey, powdered sugar, whipped cream. Then dial his cell once he's at the store and spell out exactly what you plan on doing with it.

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