5 Things Super-Happy Couples Do Every Day
Then again, if you've been married 10 years and still want to talk to each
other 10 times a day, you must be doing something right.
Back when you were 14 years old, you probably figured that once you got
married, you'd have sex just about every day. (Well, maybe teenage girls don't
think that way. But let me tell you, 14-year-old boys sure do.) And why not?
Sex is free. It's fun. And it doesn't require the purchase of any equipment,
besides the occasional bottle of vegetable oil and about 20 feet of nylon
But as they get older, most couples realize that having sex every night
isn't possible, let alone a worthy goal. Indeed, a 1994 University of Chicago
survey of Americans' sexual habits found that only about a third of adults have
sex more than once a week. Granted, that number might have been higher if all
the couples having sex more frequently had stopped to take the surveyor's phone
call, but clearly, sex for most married couples is far from a daily
That doesn't mean, though, that you can't at least talk sexy every day, and
that's the approach that Ed and Stephanie have taken in the more than six years
they've been together.
"It's funny," says Ed, a 33-year-old San Francisco cab driver,
"because we know plenty of married couples who fight, a lot, about how
often they have sex. The wife's upset because all he ever wants to do is have
sex; the husband's upset because he doesn't think they have sex enough. But
this has never really been a problem with us, and I think it has a lot do with
the fact that we're always talking sexy to each other."
"Absolutely," says Stephanie, a 32-year-old massage therapist.
"We're always complimenting each other, tossing out fantasies, telling each
other we're hot. He gets to feel like he can have sexual feelings, and I feel
like I don't have to have sex all the time to appear attractive.
"Let's put it this way: The way I see it, sex is like chocolate cake.
After five days of eating chocolate cake, even chocolate cake doesn't taste
"Right," Ed says, "but after five days of talking about
"That cake tastes damn good."
Eavesdrop on a conversation between Bob and Angie concerning their favorite
"We are so disgusting. This is so pathetic. It's like a
"But it makes us happy!"
"It's so stupid it makes us laugh."
"We're yelling at people. High-fiving each other."
"Look, we get a kick out of it because it's so ridiculous. It's our
Forgive them if they seem somewhat shy, but they're merely ashamed to admit
that the daily ritual that brings such joy to their 12-year marriage is none
other than reality TV. That's right. They lived and died with Survivor.
They've adopted Big Brother. Who Wants to Be a Millionaire? They do. Not
to mention TemptationIsland, The Weakest Link, The Real World,
Chains of Love, Fear Factor, The Mole (yes, really, The Mole).