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30 Days Back to Love

Week Four: Refuel the tank

While continuing to look more deeply at the husband you've married, start thinking about where the love you have for each other could really lead. Dreaming about the future together is what couples in love do all the time. Don't sweat the details or worry about all the reasons it might be tough to make changes. Just let yourself dream together.

Step 6. Begin writing the next chapters of your marriage

Can you imagine one or both of you changing careers? Can you see the two of you planning trips to places each of you knows the other would love to visit? Would you consider adopting a child?

What are the next pages and chapters of your love story to write, so that when you read the book of your lives together, you see yourselves getting closer, even if you were once drifting apart? Dreaming together about the best possibilities for the next years of your marriage can make them real.

Six steps. Four weeks. It may be hard to believe they can resurrect feelings that may have lain dormant inside you and your husband for a long time. But I've watched it happen in couple after couple. If you are ready to warm things up and feel close — again or even for the first time — you can do it, too.


Originally published on January 6, 2009


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