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Build a Better Date Night

5-Minute Fixes continued...

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The experts loved the five-minute ritual, which eases the scheduling pressure that prevents many date nights from happening at all. But Schwartz advised the Adamses to expand beyond their "How was your day?" conversations and get creative. She suggested that they develop ways to mix it up by brainstorming together and surprising each other. She emphasizes that no one, including the Adamses, should feel pressured to come up with something novel for every single date. There's nothing wrong with what the two do now: chat in the kitchen while Dan does the dishes. But sharing a glass of wine, going for a short walk, or just sitting on the deck once a week can make those few moments feel more special.

The overachieving couple decided that they would come up with something different to do every single day for an entire week. One night, they traded foot massages. The next, Cate asked Dan to show her how to fix a flat tire on her bicycle. Another evening, each drew a picture of the best thing that happened to them that day. And one night, after Dan noticed someone selling weird-looking rocks on eBay, they raced down to the creek that runs through their backyard to see who could find the most eBay-worthy stones.

The verdict: Sure, it was nice, but enough already!

Her take: "The night we brainstormed was funny, and we laughed a lot throughout the week. But the best part, honestly, was all the talking we did while we were doing these things. In almost every case, we wound up spending much longer than five minutes, and it was good to realize we could make that much time for each other."

His take: "We had some fun with this, but I missed the quietness — and the spontaneity — of just being able to sit down and talk with Cate and decompress. And having to think of something new to do every night just wouldn't be sustainable in the long run, obviously. But I can see doing something special more often than we do now."

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Build a Better Date Night GH articleNames: Camille and Kent Boskovich

Hometown: La Grange, IL

Married: 22 years; both are 47

Kids: A son, 19, and a daughter, 17

Their challenge: Spicing up their tried-and-true routine

These two spend plenty of time together — and enjoy it. They work out at the same gym, they have dinner out once a week, and they often spend weekends driving to their daughter's hockey tournaments in other cities.

Still, "our dates are pretty boring," Camille says. And while they enjoy elaborate events — from opera to White Sox games — they're looking for date ideas that don't take much advance scheduling.

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