Setting Good Expectations
Are you looking for love but finding disappointment? You may be asking for too much too soon. Five experts shed some light on what to expect from romance.
Working It Out When That Loving Feeling Goes continued...
That was precisely the finding of a survey conducted by the Institute of
American Values. In this study, researchers questioned hundreds of American
couples who said they were very unhappy in their marriages. Five years later
the experts re-examined the same couples to see how their relationships
The finding: Of those who worked through their difficulties and stayed
together, over 80% reported that they were once again very happy -- and glad
they stayed together. Those who got a divorce were no happier on their own.
What we learned from the study applies as much before marriage as after we
tie the knot, says Lowe.
"In many ways, couples who go through difficult times before they get
married and find a way of working it out have a better chance later on in
marriage -- better than those who live in a fantasized existence before
marriage and expect it will always be that way," says Lowe.
By acknowledging that there will always be challenges and difficulties along
the way, Lowe says couples can develop a more realistic expectation of married
life, one that will go a long way toward keeping a couple together.