He's Just Not That Into You!
Harsh words from the new movie may set single women free.
Men's Take on Dating continued...
It may be an intimacy issue on his part, Real says.
"The kind of guy that has trouble with intimacy is love-avoidant,"
he says. "A man who has been wounded in his childhood by family and culture
and can't distinguish between being close to someone and being eaten up alive
is love-avoidant," Real says.
"If there is a history of enmeshment with one of the parents, often the
mother, in which the man was used as a hero child, performer, confidant, or the
then the relationship with a parent was one in which the child was there to
service the parent's needs, not the other way around," he says. "That's
what they feel will happen to them and are basically intimacy-phobic."
But, he cautions, don't throw out the baby with the bath water. "If you
spent the whole date talking about yourself or not talking about yourself or
were excessive and extreme in another way and bet it was a real-turn off, look
at it and do better next time."