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How to Flirt With a Guy (Yours!)


WebMD Feature from "Redbook" Magazine

Sara Anderson

Redbook Magazine LogoJust because you’re happily coupled doesn’t mean you’re flirting days are behind you. Whether you’ve been together for five months or 15 years, these fun, sexy moves will bring you closer to the man in your life.

Flirt with the waiter, or that traffic cop who pulled you over, or the dry cleaner? Sure. But flirt with the guy who sleeps next to you every night? Why bother? Well, here's why: A little playful, seductive teasing is crucial to keeping longtime love hot. And it's easier than you think. After all, who knows better than you what catches his eye, makes him laugh, and turns him on? And don't forget how fun flirting can be. He'll raise his eyebrows, you'll giggle. He'll wink, you'll pinch. Most important, he'll feel fantastic -- and you'll feel like the hottest thing in his world, too. Add one, two, or all of these moves to your repertoire and see where they take you!

When You Have a Free Minute

SIGN, SEAL, AND DELIVER.
Find an old postcard from a trip you two took together (last summer's vacation, your honeymoon). Write a message telling him how sharp and wonderful that memory still is and how much you look forward to so many more. Then sign your postcard with an XOXO (of course!) and pop it in the mail to him.

GIVE HIM A PEEP SHOW TO GO.
In the middle of the morning rush, flash him full-on. Yep, fling that bathrobe or towel wide open and ask him to picture you--just like this--all day long. This catch-him-off-guard flirt will make him feel like the luckiest guy on the planet.

SEND HIM AN INSTANT FLIRT.
Take a digital shot of the restaurant where he proposed, the coffee shop where you met, even the bar where you fi rst beat him at pool. E-mail it to him with a straight-to-the-chase line: "You. Me. Here. Tonight."

SHARE A SEXY DREAM.
Mention, casually, while he's brushing his teeth or you're pouring your a.m. coffee, "You know, I had a really interesting dream last night." Then describe a favorite fantasy of yours--even if it's just, "We were making love on the beach with the waves crashing at our feet." You'll both hold that image in your heads for a long time.

When You Want Date Night to Go All Night

GIVE HIM YOUR DIGITS.
You're having dinner at your favorite restaurant, and the meal's almost over. Write down your measurements on a cocktail napkin--"34-30-36," etc. Tell him you purchased new lingerie that fits just right--and it's waiting in the top dresser drawer at home. Now take one more bite of dessert and get out of there.

REACH OUT AND TOUCH HIM
Remember your first few dates, when sparks flew every time your hands brushed against each other? On your next date night, tap into that chemistry again with some subtle, teasing touches:

Sit next to him in a restaurant booth and let your thigh press against his. Graze his lap with your hand when you reach for the popcorn. Just remember, the idea is to tease, not manhandle (unless you're asked to, of course!).

LEAVE THE LIGHTS OFF.
It's easy to get your guy into bed. But keeping him in bed--that's worth flirting for! After you've done you-know-what, engage in a little "flirtplay"--the opposite of "foreplay." Instead of flipping on latenight TV, keep the lights dim and the romance going with some ear nibbling and serious cuddling. Or pour a glass of wine and just relax together in peace and quiet.

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