How To Save A Marriage
If only every couple knew how to fight fair. The right words can make the "for worse" part better.
Finding the Right Words
Have a bad habit of saying things you don't mean to your mate? Try this script from Laurie Puhn, author of Fight Less, Love More.
"Listen, I've got this issue. I know that I say things during fights that aren't right, like mentioning divorce; I don't mean it, and then I regret it. It's not helpful. I want to give you advance notice that I am going to try to stop saying those things. So when you hear me saying one of them during a fight, I want you to raise your hand, and that means I have to take a break."
Certain that your partner is the one with the attitude problem? Try this script anyway. If you call attention to your own positive efforts, he might say, "I shouldn't do that, either."
Originally published on March 10, 2011
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