Kissing: The Hot Love Habit That Makes You Both Happier
We challenged five women to just kiss more. The results?
A total kissing switcheroo
"I pride myself on being adventurous and creative in bed, but my kissing routine is, I have to admit, pretty boring," Malikh, 29, told Redbook. "After four years of the same thing, I wondered if my husband was in the mood for something different." She followed this advice from William Cane, author of The Art of Kissing, to shake things up. "Slide your mouth to his cheek and then his ear, then back to his mouth," Cane said. "Also try different things with your hands, like rubbing his back, so it becomes a full-body experience." Bingo! "My husband immediately went from his just-getting-home-from-work mood to being ready for action. Now I have it in my bag of tricks for when I want to initiate sex without just saying, 'Hey, want to have sex?'"
Making over his smooch style
Twenty-five percent of women in our poll said they've successfully made over a guy's kissing style. That was welcome news for Zora,* 35. "My fiancé kisses like a junior high kid," she said when we first spoke to her. "It's lots of aggressive tongue-swirling, and I'm always wet around my mouth afterward blech." Sheril Kirshenbaum, author of the upcoming book The Science of Kissing, says that might be chalked up to man kissing versus woman kissing: "Research suggests that men may have an unconscious tendency to swap lots of spit because they transfer testosterone (which raises libido over time) to their mate through their saliva." An interesting explanation, but it obviously wasn't working for Zora. So to gently redirect her fiancé's style, Cane suggested this fix: "Ask him to stand still and not kiss you back for one full minute while you kiss him the way you want to be kissed." When Zora did, she couldn't believe how quickly things improved. "I planted a slow, dry one with minimal tongue on him. Then I asked him to try to do the same back to me and, A-plus! He knows I adore him, so luckily his feelings weren't hurt and he hasn't returned to his old ways."