Kissing: The Hot Love Habit That Makes You Both Happier
We challenged five women to just kiss more. The results?
All kissing (no sex!) for a week
Kissing had become a novelty for Audrey, 43, and her husband. "We're affectionate but rarely kiss, even when we have sex," she said. Bad move, Kirshenbaum says: "Whether a couple has been together for four months or 40 years, kissing promotes feelings of intimacy and security." Did more kissing but no ba-da-bing make Audrey and her husband feel even closer? "On the first day we kissed big time, and it was hard not to jump in the sack, but surprisingly there was only one slip-up the whole week our eighth anniversary came four days after I started the experiment, and I fell off the wagon. The sex was amazing, and it was hard to go back to abstinence after that. But doing this reminded us how much we love kissing, and the payoff was hot."
A very public display of affection
"My husband always wants to make out in public on the subway, in line at the market. What are we, teenagers?" says Sunny, 34. "It feels wrong to have people witnessing an intimate moment." Cane's advice: "The shared adrenaline rush that comes from an unexpected kiss can make a couple feel more bonded. Why not try it?" Sunny psyched herself up and did just that after a dinner date one night. "We stopped on a bench in Central Park and, surrounded by tons of people, I turned my properness meter off and open-mouth kissed him. I enjoyed it and realize now how many opportunities to be affectionate with him I'd been missing. I did, however, have to clarify my boundaries. After our little make-out session, he admitted that he'd almost grabbed my boob! Kissing, yes; groping, no."
Kissing more way more
"My husband and I average one peck per week," says Tara, 25. "First we had our daughter. Then we had our son. Kissing over. I miss those hourlong sessions we used to have." But even one good smooch a day can "make you feel an elevated sense of well-being and closeness with your partner for hours," Cane says. Tara put herself on a kiss-a-day diet to see if it would work and reported back.