Love Lessons Ripped from the Headlines
Britney Spears's Chaotic, which followed her romance with K-Fed
from its lusty beginnings through their wedding day, sure lived up to its
title, but it also could have been called Inappropriate. (Did we
really need to hear her rave, "Our sex is soooo good" to a makeup
And we've all seen way too many celeb couples gush about each other in
interviews -- only to implode months or weeks (even days) later.
Essentially, the louder a couple shouts their love from the rooftops, the
more quickly it seems to disintegrate.
"Certain things should be kept private, or the relationship will be
destroyed," says therapist Gilda Carle, Ph.D., author of Don't Bet on
the Prince! Celebs who overshare may believe it brings them closer to
their fans, and that might be true -- after all, who doesn't love hearing a
sweet proposal story, whether it's from your best friend or your favorite
But when you lay your heart open to the entire world, there's nothing left
that's just for the two of you alone -- something every relationship needs in
order to survive.
So although strangers may not be lining up to read about every twist and
turn in your romantic life, you can protect your love by keeping certain things
under wraps, just like smart celebrities do. (Think of Julia Roberts or J.Lo,
who've both had multiple relationships very publicly fall apart -- but are now
enjoying their current loves out of the spotlight.)
Your girlfriends don't need to know what your guy said in bed last night,
and your mom doesn't need the play-by-play of every argument. After all, a
relationship is kind of like an amusement park: It's always an adventure, but
it's even more fun without the crowds.
#2: Don't Get Blinded by Romance
In interviews, Denise Richards used to rave about how then-husband Charlie
Sheen showered her with flowers, jewelry, and even Manolo Blahniks, and how she
knew on her second date that he was "the one."
Meanwhile, she dismissed his troubled past -- a drug overdose, a
well-publicized association with a certain Hollywood madam -- explaining that
she didn't like to have preconceived notions about people because she didn't
like it when people had them about her.