Love Lessons Ripped from the Headlines
On the other hand, drive-through wedding chapels wouldn't exist if plenty of
regular folks weren't also running to the altar on the double.
And while some insta-marriages do work out (like Téa Leoni and David
Duchovny, who wed after just four months of dating, and are still going strong
nearly 10 years later), they can also fall apart as quickly -- and dramatically
-- as they came together.
"In the early phase of a romance, the dopamine activity in the brain
goes up, making you feel high," says REDBOOK Love Network expert Ian
Kerner, Ph.D., author of He Comes Next. "But relationships are
eventually about how you are at your calmest."
Translation: Wait until the first flush wears off a little before tying the
knot. In fact, studies have shown that the closer a couple's courtship is to
average length (two years, four months), the more likely they are to last.
#5: Keep the Passion Alive
Sometimes, celebs' taste for the grand gesture can actually help their love
-- like the way Lisa Rinna treats husband Harry Hamlin to the moves she picked
up at striptease lessons.
Most of us aren't as naturally dramatic or exhibitionist as your average
Hollywood star, but we can all find creative ways to surprise and tantalize our
"Just like you have to maintain your car, you have to maintain your
passion," says Carle. "It's even more important the longer you're
together. The deeper your friendship, the more meaningful it becomes to explore
It's also not a bad idea to acknowledge that your partner will be attracted
to other women occasionally.
You don't have to give each other cakes decorated with your crushes, as Jada
Pinkett Smith and Will Smith reportedly do (the Rock and Oscar De La Hoya for
her, J.Lo and Salma Hayek for him), but accepting each other's little fantasies
doesn't have to be scary or threatening -- in fact, it might just help keep you
both in a sexy frame of mind, which is nothing but good for your twosome.
#6: Don't Be Afraid to Work at Keeping Your Relationship Strong
Although it's tempting to think that true love means never having to
wonder, Why the heck did he do that? anyone who's ever been a part of a couple
surely understands that even the best partnerships require a certain amount of