More Romance, Please!
Romance Roadblock #3
Who can flirt with the kids always around?
Have those lingering touches and bedroom eyes gone the way of Saturday
mornings spent sleeping in? Guess what: It's not only possible but downright
healthy to flirt (albeit mildly) in front of your children. Parental PDAs set
an amazing example of how sweet and tender a marriage can be, says
Carter-Scott. So don't be shy about stealing a smooch or saying, "I love
you" when the kids are around. Bonus: Those tiny touches and loving looks
will keep your mind and body constantly primed for the real fireworks to come:
Just ask Trish Simo, 29, of Mundelein, Illinois. "My husband and I have our
own little hints to each other that are way over our 5-, 2-, and 1-year-olds'
heads," she confesses. "We created our own code language. Saying secret
love comments to each other when the kids are around makes us look forward to
them going to bed at night!"
Of course, if your kids are old enough to catch the romantic innuendos,
you'll need to use a bit more discretion, but you can still be a full-on flirt.
Send each other steamy emails at the office or on your home computer. (Change
your password frequently to keep your junior hacker in the dark.) You can also
leave sweet and/or slightly suggestive messages on each other's cell phones
throughout the day.
And when all else fails, find an excuse to go behind a locked door in the
middle of the day. "My husband and I have three kids," says Veronica
Dennis, 31, of Hacienda Heights, California. "So we have to make each
moment count. Every once in a while, we tell the children that Mom and Dad need
to have a meeting to discuss something private. We then adjourn to our bedroom,
lock the door and begin our 'meeting.' It's quick but intense, and we usually
take the children for ice cream or something afterward. We tell them that our
meeting was about a surprise for them, so everyone is happy!"