More Romance, Please!
Romance Roadblock #7 continued...
There are even sneaky ways to make family vacations more romantic. Take a
tip from Sonia Rogers, 32, of Brooklyn, who has found that outdoorsy vacations
at the beach all but guarantee her and her man plenty of couple time at night.
"When my kids are active in the sun all day," she says, "they get
so exhausted that they fall asleep right after dinner, leaving my husband and
me time to be alone."
And then there are those moments when you just have to be creative, as Julie
Taylor, 30, of Los Angeles discovered. "When our son, Holden, was 7 months
old, my husband and I decided to take a trip to Las Vegas: It's where we got
married, so we thought it would be fun to bring our son there," she
recalls. "We noticed right away that the room had a huge bathroom with
French doors. When it was time for Holden to go to sleep, we put his portable
crib next to our bed: big mistake. Every time we moved, he'd wake up screaming.
So then we got the idea to move his bassinet into the bathroom and close the
doors (still able to see him). He snoozed in peace while we watched
pay-per-views, ordered room service and made love. I never thought I'd let my
son sleep in a bathroom -- but, hey, whatever works!"
Prime Your Bedroom for Passion
Can changing the position of your bed really pump up your love life?
Absolutely, says Karen Rauch Carter, feng shui expert and author of Move Your
Stuff, Change Your Life. Try some of these tips to get your bedroom ready for
Move your bed. The hottest place for your bed is with the headboard against
a solid wall, where you can see the bedroom door to the right or left of your
feet: This will make you feel supersecure and allow you to be more playful in
bed. The worst is having a bed with no headboard up against a window with your
feet pointing toward the door. According to Carter, you'll feel tense, not
exactly a romantic frame of mind.
Heat things up with color. "I see a lot of stark-white comforters,"
says Carter. "It's very clean, but it's cold from a sexual standpoint."
Warm colors (reds, oranges and yellows) are more sensual, as are colors similar
to your or your husband's skin tone. Ideally, you should have these colors on
the bed itself; if you don't want to invest in new bedding, add pillows or a
chenille throw in your favorite warm tone.
Clear away clutter. Feng shui experts say that holding on to excess stuff is
unhealthy, so any clutter in your bedroom may cause relationship problems.
Invite love in by banishing old magazines, work and such from your bedside
table and dresser.