Putting the 'Man' into 'Romance'
Keeping Love Alive
Moderator: You talk about romance all yearin all kinds of
interview settings. What's the question you hear the most?
Michael Webb: Boy! Probably it's 'are you onlypreaching to
men'? And in fact my material is for both men and women. Itdefinitely takes two
to tango. And women equally need to plan and provideromantic experiences in the
relationship. Often the men aren't being romantic becausethey're significant
other is not being romantic in return.
Moderator: Romance and kids go together likemonkeys and
peanut butter. How do parents of young children make romance a partof their
daily frantic lives?
Michael Webb: I believe the most importantthing you can do
for your children is not giving them a topnotch education, notspending a lot of
money on their clothes, and not having a house in the bestneighborhood. What is
the single most important thing to consider in rearing achild is to bring him
up in a loving family. So planning romantic events withyour loved one should be
of the highest priority.
And yes, because with little children romance often has tobe planned, even
if you think that only spontaneity if romantic. Something assimple as setting
aside 10 minutes every night to discuss the day over a cup ofhot chocolate can
be a romantic experience. Children should certainly witnessromantic encounters
between their mother and father; it shouldn't be somethingonly done in private.
Otherwise, they will never learn how to be romantic intheir future
relationships. They need to know that loving time between mom anddad is very
Moderator: In your experience, does anyoneactually like
breakfast in bed?
Michael Webb: I don't know of many people whodon't like breakfast in bed.
It's a very simple, yet sincere way of lettingyour sweetheart know that you'll
do things to please them. And don't stop atbreakfast in bed, you can have
dinner in bed too. Or lunch outside on the frontlawn. Or on the fire escape, if
you live in the city!
Moderator: Doesn't elaborate bed-eating getmessy?
Michael Webb: It all depends on how big a slobyou are! You
do have to be careful with the sort of food that you prepare. Butyou can go to
department stores and buy breakfast bed tables for just a fewdollars. And the
ease and cleanup is magnificent.