Putting the 'Man' into 'Romance'
Keeping Love Alive
And yes, because with little children romance often has tobe planned, even
if you think that only spontaneity if romantic. Something assimple as setting
aside 10 minutes every night to discuss the day over a cup ofhot chocolate can
be a romantic experience. Children should certainly witnessromantic encounters
between their mother and father; it shouldn't be somethingonly done in private.
Otherwise, they will never learn how to be romantic intheir future
relationships. They need to know that loving time between mom anddad is very
Moderator: In your experience, does anyoneactually like
breakfast in bed?
Michael Webb: I don't know of many people whodon't like breakfast in bed.
It's a very simple, yet sincere way of lettingyour sweetheart know that you'll
do things to please them. And don't stop atbreakfast in bed, you can have
dinner in bed too. Or lunch outside on the frontlawn. Or on the fire escape, if
you live in the city!
Moderator: Doesn't elaborate bed-eating getmessy?
Michael Webb: It all depends on how big a slobyou are! You
do have to be careful with the sort of food that you prepare. Butyou can go to
department stores and buy breakfast bed tables for just a fewdollars. And the
ease and cleanup is magnificent.
Moderator: If you try to do somethingromantic every day,
won't it start to be taken for granted, and the only thingyour partner will
notice are the times when the romantic token is missing?
Michael Webb: Never. It depends on the sort ofromantic
things you are doing. If you are doing elaborate, well-planned-outcelebrations
on a daily basis, that will eventually get old. But the verysimple things of
just calling in the middle of the day to say hello, a warm hugwhen you see each
other at night, good-night kisses, falling asleep whileholding hands, are the
sort of romantic rituals that keep relationships strongand exciting.
Moderator: What's a good way to add aninteresting twist to
the obvious but effective act of giving flowers tosomeone?
Michael Webb: For a very special occasioninstead of
spending all the money on the dozen roses that everyone else does,go to your
photo album and find a photograph of your wife's wedding bouquet.Bring that to
the florist and ask them to recreate it, and give those flowersalong with a
note that says you want to marry them all over again.
Question from GIVEMEURLUV: Hi! Is there any sort ofadvice a
teenager could use to be romantic? Teenagers don't have a ton of cashor time --
so what can we do?
Michael Webb: Again romance doesn't need totake a lot of
time or money. A simple thing like taking a piece of chalk anddrawing a
Valentine note on the sidewalk is a great way of expressing yourlove. Instead
of buying that box of chocolate that can be rather expensive, notto mention
fattening, get an assortment of flavored jellybeans, blindfold yoursweetheart
and feed them the jellybeans, asking them to guess the correctflavor. You can
assign a point system for each one they guess correctly, andafter they
accumulate enough points you award them their prize, whether it's a10-minute
backrub or going out for an ice cream cone. You can either order or makea pizza
yourself, in the shape of a heart. Doesn't take any extra time butgives a very
clear message of who you are thinking about. You can buy yourfriend their
favorite magazine, count the number of pages in the publication,and then go to
a word-processing program, type out a love note that includes aword counter so
that the note equals the number of pages in the magazine. Printout each word on
a label and then put the labels throughout the magazine.