Returning to the Dating Scene
Don’t let fear prevent you from finding love again in midlife.
Adult Dating: Your Reality CheckÂ
While some women find it easy to end one relationship and start another, for
others letting go -- and starting again -- can be difficult and painful.
Indeed, experts say that sometimes it's better to allow some time to pass
between a failed relationship and the start of another one -- time that can
help you reflect on what you really want and need in a partner.
As clinical psychologist Rosenfeld says, "You need to understand why your
marriage or previous relationship didn't work. If you don't, you are at high
risk for repeating the same mistakes again."
One clue: If you find that you are particularly nervous, uncomfortable, or
reactive, or if you find yourself making constant comparisons between your ex
and your date (even in your own mind) you may not be quite ready to get back
into the dating scene just yet. In which case, experts say, give yourself a bit
more time to and then try again.
One of the great advantages of adult dating is that you bring maturity and
wisdom to the dating process. With time and luck, you'll meet someone
capable of doing the same.