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The Sex-Starved Wife

Behind Closed Doors

REDBOOK and Michele Weiner Davis teamed up to ask women about their husbands' sexual desire. Here's what we learned:

  • 60 percent of the more than 1,000 women we surveyed said that they were as interested in sex as their husbands — or more so.
  • How often you have sex is determined by how often the lower-desire partner wants it — whether that's the man or the woman.
  • Although 95 percent of higher-desire women are either somewhat bothered by the desire gap or consider it to be a serious problem, 56 percent believe that their husbands aren't bothered by it at all.
  • According to their wives, men's low sexual desire is caused by erectile dysfunction only 11 percent of the time. The most common causes are personal.

Adapted from The Sex-Starved Wife. Copyright 2008 by Michele Weiner Davis. Published by Simon and Schuster. For more information, go to


Originally published on December 11, 2007


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